You're engaged, congratulations! "When's the wedding?"
I know, it's understandable that everyone you've ever met in your life is excited. You've got all the congratulations, if you're lucky, a party with everyone focused on your brand new sparkly engagement ring.. but that all comes at a price - ALL THE QUESTIONS!
You've already most likely heard these and undoubtedly been asked these over and over again.. 1. "When's the wedding?"
People really ask as if they expect you to have the entire wedding planned the moment he pops the question. I literally got engaged five minutes ago - I've just about processed what's happening. Can I just enjoy the engagement?
Although, if you admit that you have no idea (because it happened 5 minutes ago) people start giving their list of things you should be doing, as if they're a professional wedding planning or some start pressuring you to pick a date because "they're just so excited"
If you genuinely have no idea or you're not ready to share that info yet, just tell the person that you’re considering a few options right now or you simply haven't thought that far ahead just yet.
2. "Are you inviting X and Y?" or "I am invited, right?"
When you're freshly engaged, does anyone really know who they're inviting just yet? I have a big family as it is, I'm already questioning if we'll all fit in the venue, let alone adding more guests.
But let's be honest, if you’re close friends or family, you’ll most likely get an invite, but don’t make me feel guilty about it if we have to go for a smaller guest list – weddings ain't cheap!
Understandably this is such an awkward question to be asked regardless as you don't know what the future holds, but especially if the person asking is not going to be attending… but a “we haven't finalised our guest list yet” will suffice!
3. "Are you taking his/her last name?"
This is not necessarily an "annoying question" but one that can be quite personal and something I hadn't yet given much thought to.
It's kind of a big deal and I'd prefer to decide on my own accord and let you find out after, thank you.
I've already started telling people he’s taking my surname ;)
4. "So when are you having kids?"
Talk about getting personal. Can we focus on the wedding first, please? I will never understand how this is anyone's business and why this must be a question to be asked – sadly not everybody can have children, let alone choose to.
Some immediately assume that children are on the radar, as soon as there’s a ring involved, but “we are just focussing on the wedding for now” or "when we're ready" are typically the answers we give that deem as polite at this stage.
5. "Are you excited?" or "Are your family excited?"
I mean, most likely wouldn’t have said yes if I wasn’t excited. Again, I know people are just excited for me, but this particular question, what type of answer are you expecting back? Could you image if I said no?
I just don't get the point of this question to be honest. Not only is is an open ended question that could typically lead to more, but then just ask how the planning is going etc.
I cannot speak for all brides-to-be but I know this has already got to me - I know the wedding is ALL people want to talk about when they speak to me now and yes, I am so excited planning the wedding, but I am not the wedding - I still have a life outside of becoming a bride, and want to discuss other life ventures!
Are you newly engaged? Or been through all these questions already?
What's your most asked annoying question? Let's chat in the comments!
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